While every divorce is unique, there is still a right way and a wrong way to go about it. Divorces can get intense and rather sticky, but there are still ways you and your spouse can make the process smoother and quicker.
It is a sad thing, but there are those who intentionally commit common mistakes that often hinder the divorce process. There are also many people who hinder the divorce process unintentionally by making mistakes.
It is important that you keep emotions out of the divorce process and do your best not to make mistakes. Tate Bywater, your family law attorney, offers mistakes to avoid when you are going through a divorce.
Get a Therapist
Experts will tell you that a divorce is 80 percent emotional. And while you might think that you are capable of leaving your emotions in check, that is not always the case, especially if you are dealing with a spouse who knows how to push your buttons.
Staying calm and rational is some situations can be rather difficult. A therapist will help you keep your emotions in check and get you through the divorce.
Fighting Over Stupid Things
You certainly don’t want to be one of those couples who fight over every little thing. In the long run, most of that stuff won’t even matter. It costs a lot of time and money fighting over silly things like the vacuum cleaner and the CD collection.
It just doesn’t make sense spending thousands of dollars fighting over things that cost much less.
Don’t Bad Mouth Your Spouse
It is completely normal to be angry at your spouse when going through a divorce. But this does not mean it is OK to bad mouth your spouse in front of the children. Spewing bad things about your spouse to the children will needlessly hurt them and may come back to haunt you in future custody cases.
Have Reasonable Expectations
A divorce is not a contest to see who can wind up with the most stuff in the end. It is not a game with a winner and a loser. You need to face the fact that there are no winners in a divorce.
You are not going to get everything you want in a divorce, so let it go and things will go smoother for you.
There is no reason to have the attitude that everything must go according to your plan. This type of mentality will only lead to further frustration and more conflict. IN order to reach any type of resolution, you need to learn how to compromise.
Lose the Past
Whatever happened in the past is done and effectively water under the bridge. You can’t expect to move forward if you are obsessed with what happened in the past. If you are stuck in the past, shift your focus to the tasks and events happening right here right now.
If you would like to speak to an attorney concerning your divorce, contact Tate Bywater.